February 06, 2011

Me and Christmas Trees

Never would I dream to compare myself to a Christmas tree, but it feels necessary to get my point across.

When you look at your average Christmas tree, it's just that...average. The color of the pine needles are an average shade of green, the trunk boasts an average thickness and it looks plain in hindsight to a decorated Christmas tree.

When you look at me, I stand only 5'8, I have a medium skin tone seen on most Native Americans, an average body size and a normal head of hair that would raise no questions. Though the average eye isn't able to perceive those small things behind all of my decorations, just like you wouldn't be able to notice a plain Christmas tree for what it is after it was heavily decorated.

While making a trip to the grocery store for dinner items, I was stopped by a woman in the pasta aisle and asked if my mother was proud. When I responded with "proud of what?" the woman simply laughed and walked over to her husband and they shared whispers as they disappeared at the end of the aisle. Hearing the comment normally wouldn't have bothered me, but I think about what my mother would think of me if she were here today, I do wonder if she would be proud of the choices I made.

The main direction I seem to be taking this post is right into the complicated, mind boggling assessing of stereotypes. If I were simply a person written on a piece of paper, bases solely on my accomplishments and work ethic, I would be seen as a hard-working model citizen with a good head on her shoulders. Someone that any given person wouldn't be ashamed to look up to.

However when you view my exterior you would swear that because I am half covered in tattoos and my face it scattered with piercings, that I am an  unfit part of society and I will never make anything of myself. Hell, people would probably even assume that I failed to complete high school and now not only am I jobless but I am homeless as well.

Stereotypes are a bitch, but they are easy to come by. For every person that walks down the aisle of a grocery store and writes my story based on appearance alone, I can think of five people I've done the same thing to. Stereotypes are unfair and a ridiculous way to try and grasp the true identity of someone else.  Though we perform the act of judging others everyday...and for what?

Have you ever been read wrong, misjudged or treated unfairly based on personal appearance?
If so, then you know how I feel.

-Unfit for society


  1. You are a writer for MDM?

    Looks like I got to catch up with a lot of things, anyway congrats.

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  3. What really annoys me is when I walk past someone and they give me a horrible dirty look when they don't even know me, which I guess is exactly what you're talking about ;)

  4. All of us are guilty of this.

    "Judge and Be judged" is more of a bitch than stereotype itself.

  5. Now if you could only apply that to the people you have judged virtually with your blog, I'd see progress.

  6. You don't know how many times I fall into the sterotype that because, I am Asian, I have to have slanted eyes. And, the other sterotype that because, I am a girl I have to be dressed in skirts,dresses,pink,purple and etc.

    I absolutely despise sterotypes, it's just the most idiotic thing I've ever heard of.

    -superjuniormfan (supah dupah diva *sings*)

  7. I love your writing style, and your use of symbolism and personification.

    I agree with everything you've said. But, sadly, judging others by their looks has become something that every single one of us has come to do in our lives every single day. No matter how hard we try not to, we all put people that we pass in the streets into categories. The same thing happens to us; we are all stereotyped into groups.

    I wish this wouldn't happen, but sadly, it has become the norm in our society.

  8. I REALLY love this. Amazing meaning, seriously. (:

  9. This post is so true. I'm guilty of judging others.... :(

  10. Isn't Elites Exposed a contradiction of this post of yours?

  11. You seem like a really great person, you can just be you and if that isn't enough for someone , it just wasn't meant to be. Those who love you for who you are are your true friends. I get told just because I do well in school and do my homework I don't dream or want there to be something more to life than growing up getting married , a job and dying but I daydream all the time and would give anything to be whisked away by prince charming or a handsome vampire Rofl and find my adventure.


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